Narcissistic abuse is a pattern of narcissistic, disrespectful, and harmful behavior exhibited by one person in an intimate relationship.
Let me be very clear about what this is—and what it is not.
This is not about one or two isolated incidents of hurtful behavior. This is not about a decent, loving partner who was occasionally insensitive. This is not about someone who seriously sinned, took
accountability, entered recovery, and worked to help you heal.
This is something very different.
This is about a man who abused you consistently. A man who began abusing you early on, before you even had language for what was happening. A man who never stopped.
Most abusers are narcissists. They are spectacularly selfish people. Everything they said, thought, felt, and did had one goal—to protect and please themselves.
Your ex did not love you. He was only capable of loving himself. He did not meet your needs because he was never even aware of your needs. Your emotional world did not exist unless it served him.
He never truly loved you. Understanding this is painful—but necessary for healing.
The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse
Abuse stress is not normal—especially when it comes from a narcissist.
In my practice, I see the same patterns repeatedly. Women living under narcissistic abuse struggle at work, feel disconnected from their children, isolate from friends, and feel distant or awkward around family.
No part of your life escapes the impact of this abuse.
You are broken down slowly—day by day, month by month, year by year—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Eventually, many women no longer recognize themselves. You feel brain-damaged. You forget simple things. You struggle to make decisions. You question your own reality.
The manipulation runs so deep that you begin to believe you are the manipulator.
You are not living. You are surviving.
Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
Do not lose yourself in this kind of abuse.
There is help. There is healing. And it is not for the abuser—it is for you.
Every woman I have helped leave a narcissistically abusive relationship says the same thing: I feel better. I didn’t realize how sick I was until I left. I feel clearer mentally, stronger emotionally, and hopeful again.
This is what happens when the abuse ends. Healing begins—not perfectly, not instantly—but truthfully.
You are not weak for staying. You are not broken for struggling. You were surviving something that was slowly destroying you.
And you do not have to survive anymore.
Gentle Call to Action
If this article resonates with you, support is available. Healing from narcissistic abuse begins when you are believed, supported, and guided by professionals who understand trauma and coercive control. You deserve safety, clarity, and peace. Reach out when you are ready—your healing matters.